Step Mom

I recently watched the movie, Step Mom,  as I was running on the elliptical and it got to me.  As a mom, I guess I take it personally.  I do not like how through the whole movie Julia Roberts (the step-mom to be) is portrayed as the underdog.  I fully believe that a mom who loves her children and is an active part of their lives should not have to compete with another for the title of mom.  I am not a supporter of divorce at all, but if the situation happens and another comes into the picture, of course you don’t want a battle between your children and the new person…that wouldn’t be fair for anyone.  I just pray that people begin to take marriage more seriously and these situations do not “need” to happen.  I guess for me, the worst part of the movie is when the mom knew she was dying and was talking about her kids’ futures.  The step mom tells this dying woman that she fears her step daughter will be thinking of her (the mom) on her wedding day.  How selfish.  If anything should happen to me that I couldn’t be there on any of my children’s wedding day, I would take it as a personal failure if they didn’t think of me.  Of course, the mom’s fear is that she will be replaced and her daughter won’t think of her or wish her to be there.  So sad.  Before I was a mom, I liked this movie a lot more.  Now that I am a mama  bear…hmmm…maybe it just strikes a little too close to the heart.

Wedding Dresses

Yes, I am already married, no I do not need a wedding dress.  😉  I do, however, enjoy watching wedding shows while I torture myself on the elliptical in the wee hours of the morning.

I guess it makes me old, or maybe just old fashioned, but the latest wedding dress fad seems to be the see through bodice  Now, there are extreme wedding dresses in terms of immodesty, with super low cuts back and front, but the see through thing is in a league of its own.  I don’t know about the rest of the world, but I thought that weddings included grandparents and great aunts and uncles…and fathers!  My goodness!  If my grandparents saw me in a see through wedding dress, they might not be speaking to me anymore.  And I think it would be safe to say my dad would not have walked me down the aisle.

It is a small wonder marriages don’t last today.  If the bride is willing to show that much of herself…(and some of these go down to just about “there” ) to the whole world, when it should be sacred for her husband on her wedding day…wow, blows my mind.

I hear the arguments now.  No I am not saying everyone who wears a see through gown will get divorced.  I wish that on no one.  And yes, I realize most of us show off that much at the beach or pool in our bathing suits.  I guess the see through wedding dress just irks me.

What are your thoughts?

7.22.13

Proverbs 20:6-7

Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find?  The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him.
 
 
 
Marriage:  
 
Marriage used to be sacred, used to be taken seriously, used to be forever.  It should be.  It is called to be.  It isn’t anymore.
 
I (sadly) often wonder how many brides and grooms go to the altar these days pledging to love and adore their spouse until death do they part, or someone better comes along.  I wonder if brides and grooms these days expect forever.  It is heartbreaking.  I expect forever, my friends expect forever, but forever isn’t always what occurs.  
 
So many of our friends now are experiencing the pain of affairs and divorce.  It is horrendous to watch and be up close and personal with.  There are so many pains in this world, but I cannot fathom facing one where you lose your best friend, the one who is supposed to carry you through the bad times or at least bear them with you.  God of course is ever present.  It is still so hard.
 
I blame the selfishness we as a people have acquired over the years.  So many horrible decisions are made in the here and the now.  “This feels good now, I should do it.  My kids, wife, family, friend, etc all come in second to how I am feeling.  It is all about me.  I should be able to do anything I want and not deal with the consequences.”  This way of thinking causes issues in marriages, in unplanned pregnancies, in drinking and driving, in drugs, in every sinful area of life.  I despise this way of thinking.  And I say that knowing I am not perfect and my thoughts are not perfect.
 
Whether or not you are a Bible believer (of course you know I am), the rules and laws of the Bible do prevent a lot of pain if they are followed.  And they don’t prevent a lot of fun as many tend to believe.  
 
I am thankful for my faithful husband.  I am more thankful for my faithful God!  And I pray all the time that my children may grow up caring for others over themselves and that they may spend eternity with their Holy God.
 

4.13.13

My heart is heavy tonight.  I see so many lives falling apart.  Christians as well as non-christians are suffering across the world from hunger, fear, abuse, neglect and hopelessness.  Christians, as well as non-christians in my immediate life are suffering as well…they live with children who are destined to a life of health strugglea, they live with the pain of a spouse who has given up on them, they live with the heartbreak of a child who has died, they live with no answers of what is to come.  I am sad for those especially who do not know my Lord and Savior, for without Him I do not see how they can get through even one second of the pain.  I am sad for those who do, too, because they still hurt and grieve, but they have the peace that comes from God and they are able to give their burdens to Him…for that I am thankful.  I am thankful that God knows the end as well as the beginning, the future as well as the past…and that He knows best.  He will forever reign victoriously!  He will rejoice with my friends as they come to rejoice in life’s joys to come and He will rejoice with them even more when they join Him for eternity at the end of their time here on earth.  Praise to God who carries us through and loves us despite our failures!

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11