Step Mom

I recently watched the movie, Step Mom,  as I was running on the elliptical and it got to me.  As a mom, I guess I take it personally.  I do not like how through the whole movie Julia Roberts (the step-mom to be) is portrayed as the underdog.  I fully believe that a mom who loves her children and is an active part of their lives should not have to compete with another for the title of mom.  I am not a supporter of divorce at all, but if the situation happens and another comes into the picture, of course you don’t want a battle between your children and the new person…that wouldn’t be fair for anyone.  I just pray that people begin to take marriage more seriously and these situations do not “need” to happen.  I guess for me, the worst part of the movie is when the mom knew she was dying and was talking about her kids’ futures.  The step mom tells this dying woman that she fears her step daughter will be thinking of her (the mom) on her wedding day.  How selfish.  If anything should happen to me that I couldn’t be there on any of my children’s wedding day, I would take it as a personal failure if they didn’t think of me.  Of course, the mom’s fear is that she will be replaced and her daughter won’t think of her or wish her to be there.  So sad.  Before I was a mom, I liked this movie a lot more.  Now that I am a mama  bear…hmmm…maybe it just strikes a little too close to the heart.

Wedding Dresses

Yes, I am already married, no I do not need a wedding dress.  😉  I do, however, enjoy watching wedding shows while I torture myself on the elliptical in the wee hours of the morning.

I guess it makes me old, or maybe just old fashioned, but the latest wedding dress fad seems to be the see through bodice  Now, there are extreme wedding dresses in terms of immodesty, with super low cuts back and front, but the see through thing is in a league of its own.  I don’t know about the rest of the world, but I thought that weddings included grandparents and great aunts and uncles…and fathers!  My goodness!  If my grandparents saw me in a see through wedding dress, they might not be speaking to me anymore.  And I think it would be safe to say my dad would not have walked me down the aisle.

It is a small wonder marriages don’t last today.  If the bride is willing to show that much of herself…(and some of these go down to just about “there” ) to the whole world, when it should be sacred for her husband on her wedding day…wow, blows my mind.

I hear the arguments now.  No I am not saying everyone who wears a see through gown will get divorced.  I wish that on no one.  And yes, I realize most of us show off that much at the beach or pool in our bathing suits.  I guess the see through wedding dress just irks me.

What are your thoughts?

Back from Hiatus

My family and I went on a little adventure last week and it was pretty impossible to keep up on here as we didn’t bring computers along.

My kids had their first memorable airplane rides, went to a wedding and also the adoption day of my niece.  We saw lots of family we don’t get to see very often which is always a good thing.  🙂  On the down side, there were quite a few travel mishaps with plane delays, sitting on runways for an hour for 2 flights, lack of sleep and hotel mistakes.  With all the craziness the kids really were troopers.  A couple weepy times from lack of sleep but mostly on track the whole time…that makes travelling for parents much nicer!

Some trip fun facts:

  • sometimes it is easier to pull 2 roller suitcases with a child riding on each than it is to carry the non-roller huge bear of a suitcase
  • everywhere should have a free community splash pad where the kids can run around in their swimsuits and squirt each other and slide down mini water slides…no fear of drowning, but small chance of slipping and falling.
  • Chick Fil A lemonade is dye free but there is yellow dye in their vanilla ice cream.  😦
  • when given the choice to laugh or cry always laugh

Wedding Day

Not mine.  My beautiful cousin’s.  I am overjoyed for her! I have the honor of being in her wedding party, so get to see her say “I Do” up close.  Of course it brings back memories to my wedding day.

11 years ago.  I can remember so much, which I am glad.  I tried to be diligent in remembering details of the day as I knew it would fly by.  My husband and I were the most calm people in the church that day.  It boggled my mind that anyone else would be nervous, for we certainly were not.  For me, I think calmness came because I knew that no matter what happened that day, at the end of it, I would be married to my best friend.  I know my parents had normal parent anxiety, but I now know why others were nervous.

Because I am nervous for my cousin.  Not because of her groom choice…they are completely in sync and a great pair.  But because I want everything to be perfect for her.  And it will be…because at the end of the day, no matter what happens, she will be married to her best friend.

This week brought on some personal concerns for the wedding… not wanting to let the bride down.  With training I have been eating more and building more muscle.  All that is fine, except that my dress is a bit more snug than it was in the past.  I have visions of it splitting open from being too tight.  I also have visions of my children disturbing the ceremony.  They are WAY excited to be spectators at the occasion and I am happy that they are allowed to come.  They even helped in choosing their special clothes for the day (which will be recycled for Easter as well…and many times after).  But…now they are all sick and coughing is the main culprit.  In a few hours we will see if my dress and my children make it through without causing a scene.

Regardless of my family, today is the day…their day  The day made for my cousin and her groom.  The day 2 wonderful people become one.  The day a new life for them starts.  The day where first memories of their lives together as husband and wife begins.  In a world where the sacrament of marriage has become less sacred, it makes me proud of them for standing together, promising forever and taking it seriously.

My prayer for them is the same as my prayer for marriages across the globe.  I pray that they may build their lives on God’s Word, that they may turn to Him and each other when times are hard, that they may not give up on each other, that they may back each other and that they may have a marriage that is a cord of three…one that will be a witness to all they meet.